tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post3444169281687021776..comments2023-10-26T14:17:19.752+03:00Comments on saudi stepford wife: Since I can't write these days...Saudi Stepford Wife-Daisyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09934386285333242262noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-82342686387036205132009-06-16T04:13:32.607+03:002009-06-16T04:13:32.607+03:00Masha'Allah, thank you for your blog, ukhti. I...Masha'Allah, thank you for your blog, ukhti. I found you on the blogroll of another blog where you commented on the comparison of Saudi women and the Amish. I was looking for the pic you said you had of your family in Ohio, lol, I used to be Amish.<br /><br />I tried to watch the niqaabi video but it says it is private.Salihahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10809233887247676936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-72414969860357403142008-04-21T05:40:00.000+03:002008-04-21T05:40:00.000+03:00always in the kitchen- it is CLAIMED that we can d...always in the kitchen- it is CLAIMED that we can drive outside of the cities but if we were stopped by authorities, we'd still get busted!<BR/><BR/>amoola, rebellious arab girl, and susie- thanks for stopping by and I'm glad you liked the vids.<BR/><BR/>Tina- "pure" my foot (in most cases). The carseat issue isn't an issue here...most just don't use it, or seatbelts for that matter.I'd wish they'd hurry up and make it a highly punishable law like they did in the west, too many traffic deaths here already.<BR/><BR/>aafke- thanks for that link, i was wondering if the rest of it was there someplace.<BR/><BR/>mamma kalila- make-up or no, it depends on whether you think its mandatory or not to wear it. However, some of my friends who DON't think its obligatory will cover their faces when dolled up.<BR/><BR/>hafidha sofia- you've hit on the biggest point of hypocrisy, why tell us that we can't drive because it may lead to mixing with men but we have to be alone with strange drivers? As far as Saudi maids, it is rare but not unheard of for Saudis to be housekeepers. Some will moonlight as cooks in other houses but these tend to be "Saudis" of African/other racial backgrounds and of a very poor socio/economic class.<BR/><BR/>Molly- yes we do cover our arms but I think Suzy is emphasizing her issue with "lateness". There are those who wear gloves, and I used to, until I realized how pointless/annoying it was. For example, paper money was hard to grasp, I'd have to keep removing them to eat, count money, touch fabric I was thinking of buying, etc. Finally, I just had the sleeves of my abaya made to go down to my fingertips. No one will freak if your arms show unintentionally just like if the wind blows open your abaya...no biggy!<BR/><BR/>Nicole- exactly my take on it...let us drive ourselves for God's sake!<BR/><BR/>Brooke- "tactful" definitely! Please make some sleep du'aa for me:-)<BR/><BR/>Barbara- hey, that's my mom's name! Thanks for stopping by and I hope to hear from you again in the future.<BR/><BR/>Wangbu- glad to hear from you:-)<BR/><BR/>Amina- thanks for the compliments. Change happens here but soooo slowly. Long held opinions can't be changed overnight but when it's put into perspective, Saudis have changed in leaps and bounds in a few generations.<BR/><BR/>marahm- I'm glad you remember your time here warmly, pun intended:-P<BR/><BR/>Tina- You crack me up and I love you for checking on my sister!<BR/><BR/>Bedouin girl- inshallah:-)<BR/><BR/>vibeke- ahlan. Inshallah I'll hear again from you on future posts.<BR/><BR/>UmmMohammed, PM, TheQueen, Khair Insha'allah!, Dalia, Umm, aafke, Miss Muslimah, UmLayth, hijabi apprentice, yasmine, anon, and the whole Hijib Debate Team:<BR/><BR/>There's really nothing more I could add that hasn't already been said. But, try to keep it nice, eh?Saudi Stepford Wife-Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934386285333242262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-22802957230167016812008-04-21T05:03:00.000+03:002008-04-21T05:03:00.000+03:00My comment notification goes off for a while and I...My comment notification goes off for a while and I come back to all this arguing! Wow!<BR/><BR/>Instead of delving into the hijab is optional/a must debate with separate comments, I'll just add this: <BR/>I understand that covering the hair IS mandatory however, like most things in Islam it is up to the individual on what you can tolerate. Ultimately, it is NOT the most important thing for women in our religion despite all the hubbub about it and one CAN be pious without it. Having said that, I'd feel positively naked without mine!Saudi Stepford Wife-Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934386285333242262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-5183422909102380272008-04-19T13:45:00.000+03:002008-04-19T13:45:00.000+03:00Assalamu aleikum sis!I just stumbled over your blo...Assalamu aleikum sis!<BR/><BR/>I just stumbled over your blog yesterday and sat up until 3 am reading!! I love it! <BR/><BR/>I'm a European muslimah living in Kuwait and although it's different here that in Saudi, I can relate to a lot of what you're writing!<BR/><BR/>You're bookmarked for sure!hijabinfohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04820555678539605025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-50217482657822729392008-04-18T16:37:00.000+03:002008-04-18T16:37:00.000+03:00'I don't need to show that I'm more educated than ...'I don't need to show that I'm more educated than them, because the opinion on hijab is not from me'<BR/><BR/>Exactly! Do your OWN research, get your OWN education and make your OWN opinions! That's what Islam is supposed to be about. Isn't that what makes it so wonderful? Or are you of the opinion that it is wonderful because it has managed to keep a very high number of people clinging to cultural traditions and calling it 'religion' for the last 1400 years? Think female genital mutilation for a moment. Those that believe in that think that 'there is no controversy' either.<BR/><BR/>I'm very sorry if you take offense at my personal opinions about people who judge others based on OTHER people's opinions rather than on their own educated and researched opinions. My bad.The Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04071652918414242294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-25866961032201441732008-04-18T15:43:00.000+03:002008-04-18T15:43:00.000+03:00"Now, if you can show me where you are more educat..."Now, if you can show me where you are more educated in Islam than any of the people that I listed, and yes, they were just a small sample."<BR/><BR/>I don't need to show that I'm more educated than them, because the opinion on hijab is not from me.<BR/><BR/>If there were actually any controversy, I would need to show how the scholars who say hijab is required (basically all Islamic scholars, all over the world, for the past 1400 years, in all schools of Islamic law) are more educated than the two people you could find. And there's no question about that.<BR/><BR/>As for Dr. Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed... In the U.S., many of the people who run Islamic centers and give lectures are not people who would ever be considered Islamic scholars. They're often business executives or engineers or computer professionals; alhamdulillah, they make this effort, but giving lectures and heading an association of engineers doesn't make you an Islamic scholar.<BR/> <BR/>There are many of us who read and learn, give lectures and write articles and do dawah; that doesn't make us scholars. The fact that you can't make that distinction may be the root of your misunderstandings.<BR/><BR/>Like I said, I've read Muhammad Asad and loved his book, but living in Saudi Arabia and learning Arabic also doesn't make you a scholar in itself... Does he have ijazas for Quran and hadith?<BR/><BR/>And by the way, you don't know anything about me except what I've written here. Why do you have to resort to personal insults like those that you usually write in the last paragraphs of your posts?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-76433609072325803232008-04-17T14:41:00.000+03:002008-04-17T14:41:00.000+03:00'OK, so you quoted Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed, whose PhD ...'OK, so you quoted Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed, whose PhD is in Nuclear Medicine Sciences. Very impressive if we were discussing something remotely related to that...'<BR/><BR/>I know that there is no way you could have found that out about him without learning this as well:He is listed in Who's Who in Religion and He is a founding member and member of many Islamic Organizations in North America. He served many Muslim communities as a Secretary, Treasurer, Vice President and President including the Association of Muslim Scientists and Engineers of North America. He is a Founder and currently President of the Islamic Research Foundation International Inc., located in Louisville, Kentucky.<BR/><BR/>He is a prolific writer and has published over 100 articles chapters, books on topics related to his profession. He has also written about 300 articles on a multitude of Islamic subjects particularly on “Qur’an and Science” that are available to read at http://www.irfi.org . His book "Intellectual Achievements of the Muslims", was published in 2002. He is the World’s Foremost Exponent for the interpretation of Qur’an Majid in the light of modern knowledge. He regularly gives color slide presentation lectures on various Islamic subjects in Islamic Centers in the USA and abroad. His outstanding contribution to diversity in education while providing a positive role model for students conferred him a Diversity Award 2002 . Occasionally he serves as an Imam and Khatib for Jumuah prayers in local Masajid and outside Louisville. He is a volunteer Muslim Chaplain (Imam) at the Veterans Administration Medical Center and at most of the Correctional Institutions (Prisons) throughout the State of Kentucky. He is a licensed Qadi to perform Islamic marriages in Kentucky and Indiana states.<BR/><BR/>"I'm not aware of his (Muhammad Asad)having an actual Islamic education"<BR/><BR/>I realize that there are a lot of things that you are not aware of. That is why you should read more. Never stop learning. As I already wrote - 'Asad spent some six years in the holy cities of Makkah and Madinah, where he studied Arabic, the Qur'an, the hadith—the traditions of the Prophet—and Islamic history.<BR/><BR/>Now, if you can show me where you are more educated in Islam than any of the people that I listed, and yes, they were just a small sample. There are well educated Muslims all over the world that have the same understanding as these that I have mentioned. The fact that you want to belive differently does not change the fact that controversy DOES exist. <BR/><BR/>PM, It is beyond me why they are allowed to spout off as if they are 'all knowing' without being put in their place. I've found that it's usually the biggest mouths that are the least able to think on their own. It's a shame really. I wish I could wiggle my nose and all the uneducated of the world could magically open their eyes.The Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04071652918414242294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-5252160391076672052008-04-17T10:15:00.000+03:002008-04-17T10:15:00.000+03:00We miss you! Please hurry and post again soon!We miss you! Please hurry and post again soon!Bedouin Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01663028638643762436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-59737310947423713442008-04-17T08:51:00.000+03:002008-04-17T08:51:00.000+03:00This is "a small sampling"? Or this is all you cou...This is "a small sampling"? Or this is all you could come up with?<BR/><BR/>OK, so you quoted Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed, whose PhD is in Nuclear Medicine Sciences. Very impressive if we were discussing something remotely related to that...<BR/><BR/>Then there's Mr. Mohamad Kazim Yusuf. I googled him and the only thing I found were a couple of references to that one quote where he says hijab is not mandatory. That article refers to him as the editor of "Aalim"; that's the little newsletter from the Islamic Research Foundation, which is headed by Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed, mentioned above. I looked at a few copies over the years, and Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed was always named as the editor, managing editor, or assistant editor; he writes most of the articles, and it seems to be his mouthpiece. Dr. Ibrahim was the managing editor when this man was the editor, and it looks like the job of editor was just to put together a few articles by Dr. Ibrahim. In the newsletter, his last name was spelled "Yusuff". I did find references in google to a Guyanese man in Washington named Mohamad Kazim Yusuff; he's a CPA. Sorry, but I don't think this quote carries much weight.<BR/><BR/>I am familiar with Muhammad Asad; I loved his book "The Road to Mecca". He was a writer and a diplomat, a very interesting guy, but I'm not aware of his having an actual Islamic education. His interpretation of the meanings of the Quran is controversial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-62752391149144786482008-04-16T16:12:00.000+03:002008-04-16T16:12:00.000+03:00Thank you "Queen" --I had just given up on dealing...Thank you "Queen" --<BR/><BR/>I had just given up on dealing with the scarf-bullies but your response clears up the main misconception here (ie., that there is some controversy over the mandate of a head scarf).<BR/><BR/>Salaam Alaikum,<BR/>PMPMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-10523824204843423872008-04-16T14:13:00.000+03:002008-04-16T14:13:00.000+03:00Although I am fairly confident that you would most...Although I am fairly confident that you would most likely refute the qualifications of any Muslim who disagrees with you on the issue of covering,I will list just a couple scholars of Islam that do. When you read up on them then you too can learn that yes, there is a whole world full of educated Muslims that beg to differ with your opinion that there "IS NO CONTROVERSY" about hijab. When you get half as much religious education as any of these people, then you can argue with THEM. My point is that there IS difference of opinion and it isn't just on a blog with uneducated people spouting off as if they are all knowing.<BR/><BR/>Mr. Mohamad Kazim Yusuf, a Guyanese-American, editor of the Islamic periodical, Aalim, concludes: “The issue is simply this: within Islamic theology there is no mandatory requirement for wearing the hijab. A Muslim woman is free to wear it or not wear it. The essential dress code is characterized by simplicity, decency and modesty.” <BR/><BR/>Dr. Ibrahim B. Syed, President of the Islamic Research Foundation, and a Professor at the University of Louisville, Kentucky. –“ Hijab (head cover) for Muslim women is not mandated in the Qur’an. If it is, it is only the subjective interpretation of an ayah (verse) on the part of the reader.”<BR/><BR/>Muhammad Asad , author of "The Message of the Qur’an." - Asad spent some six years in the holy cities of Makkah and Madinah, where he studied Arabic, the Qur'an, the hadith—the traditions of the Prophet—and Islamic history. <BR/><BR/>This of course is just a small sampling. If you really want to, you can find more on your own. All you have to do is open your eyes and your mind.The Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04071652918414242294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-8511693162114203882008-04-14T17:47:00.000+03:002008-04-14T17:47:00.000+03:00"The Queen", a few people saying they don't like t..."The Queen", a few people saying they don't like the hijab is not a controversy. Name me an Islamic "scholar" who says hijab is not obligatory, and then please list his or her credentials.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-13533960146228335332008-04-13T19:09:00.000+03:002008-04-13T19:09:00.000+03:00Anonymouse says: 'There's no question that hijab i...Anonymouse says: 'There's no question that hijab is obligatory in Islam; there is no controversy'<BR/><BR/>There is no controversy??? You can see controversy right here and you will find controversy from modern day scholars of Islam so your statement sounds like nothing more than a desperate attempt at justification for what YOU feel is right. ie: making non-hijabi Muslim women feel that they are not being as good a Muslim as you.The Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04071652918414242294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-6621812614311610662008-04-12T19:40:00.000+03:002008-04-12T19:40:00.000+03:00AA Daisy, Daisy where are you? Are you and your fa...AA Daisy,<BR/><BR/> Daisy where are you? Are you and your family ok? It's been 30 days since we heard from you and I'm experiencing some really bad SaudiStepfordWife withdrawals!!! Please come back to us Daisy!Tina;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-29425120148946717422008-04-11T23:49:00.000+03:002008-04-11T23:49:00.000+03:00There's no question that hijab is obligatory in Is...There's no question that hijab is obligatory in Islam; there is no controversy, ad there has been agreement among scholars throughout the centuries and around the world. And from what I know, niqab is obligatory in three of the four schools of Islamic law (the exception being Hanafi). Hijab is not specifically one of the five pillars of Islam, but the first pillar involves following the Quran and Sunnah... and there you have it.<BR/><BR/>About the niqab, it should be understood that women wear niqabs for different reasons. There are women who wear niqab because it's required in their culture, and they may wear heavy make-up in the areas that can be seen (i.e. the eyes). In Saudi, since it's expected of Saudi women (depending on the region), some women wear it only for that reason. In Saudi and other parts of the Middle East, there are also women who wear it because they're Bedu, and it's part of their culture; some of them wear abayas, hijabs and make-up intended to make them attractive.<BR/><BR/>You can easily tell the women who are wearing niqab for religious reasons. They won't be wearing tons of makeup around their eyes; they'll keep their arms covered, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-30008400538119228152008-04-10T02:05:00.000+03:002008-04-10T02:05:00.000+03:00Umm Layth...You could not express it better than t...Umm Layth...You could not express it better than that....I agree...May Allah (swt) have mercy on all of us.....Jasak Allahu Khair ;)Yasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863460832128766275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-19968688662839667962008-04-06T23:55:00.000+03:002008-04-06T23:55:00.000+03:00I watched these videos several times. The first on...I watched these videos several times. The first one made a good Arabic lesson, and the second one rekindled my memories of having lived in the Kingdom. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-34752329312500939292008-04-01T20:27:00.000+03:002008-04-01T20:27:00.000+03:00"It is weird, but whenever there is a whiff of the..."It is weird, but whenever there is a whiff of the hijab it explodes in a heated discussion."<BR/><BR/>I know sheesh! Anyways good post ukhtee.Hijabi Apprenticehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18416570850364044251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-82737147892898581552008-03-31T10:56:00.000+03:002008-03-31T10:56:00.000+03:00very good post sister! it is good that someone hav...very good post sister! it is good that someone have gutts to show facts way they are!!!! just wonder what could be really done about it...at the end it's KSAAminahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12029359701160450359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-77440133186991254822008-03-31T07:50:00.000+03:002008-03-31T07:50:00.000+03:00It's quite unfortunate that we have da'wah against...It's quite unfortunate that we have da'wah against niqab and khimar/hijab from Muslims themselves. None of our traditional scholars, of the past and present, have ever said that niqab isn't part of the deen, or that khimar doesn't cover the hair. We can preach on about our own opinions, but let us be just about what is clear: there is no ikhtilaf amongst our beloved 'ulema about the basic hijab. And we have the right to hold onto something that is this clear in the Qur'an, Sunnah, and books of fiqh.<BR/><BR/>To each their own, nevertheless. Allah will judge us all individually, but we should hold onto the proofs brought forth, not mere opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-15947097204097803832008-03-27T01:56:00.000+03:002008-03-27T01:56:00.000+03:00Hi! I'm afraid my question got lost in the debate....Hi! I'm afraid my question got lost in the debate. Do niqaabis in Saudi not cover their arms and hands??<BR/><BR/>I'm not saying its good or bad, I'm just curious because all of the niqaabis I know here or in Egypt wear long gloves.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-87035122157849002212008-03-25T14:32:00.000+03:002008-03-25T14:32:00.000+03:00You know. you write bravely and I adnire you for t...You know. you write bravely and I adnire you for that. Continue blogging about truth!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-33431467886217748482008-03-19T18:35:00.000+03:002008-03-19T18:35:00.000+03:00I hate self righteous attitudes....That is why sal...I hate self righteous attitudes....<BR/><BR/>That is why salafi's have such a bad rep! I cant say this enough!Miss Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18401826932335794427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-49413535759911805042008-03-18T13:33:00.000+03:002008-03-18T13:33:00.000+03:00Congratulations on your blog: rarely I've found on...Congratulations on your blog: rarely I've found one so interesting! I'd like to know different cultures and kinds of living, and your blog is very precise.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15811992739280778202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1481269903589710089.post-19133035634450561012008-03-18T09:34:00.000+03:002008-03-18T09:34:00.000+03:00Uuuuu...I just wanted to say that...uuuuuuu...wow,...Uuuuu...I just wanted to say that...uuuuuuu...wow, this topic just gets so warm....anyhoo....I had a good chuckle at the part where the sister explains that she doesn't cover in her home--and the interviewer says something like "but you are in your home now"...yeah and this film is not going anywhere? Masha Allah, the sis was much more tactful than what I was thinkin!<BR/>And true that about relying on non-mahrams for transport...seems berry silly....<BR/>Daisy, I'm hoping you get some sleep inshallah. <BR/>Love and peace,<BR/>~Brooke AKA UmmbadierAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com