I'll be on a blogging break until around mid-June. I won't be making any new posts nor will I be responding to any new comments or emails. Inshallah, I'll be back after that with some entertaining posts.
Stay Tuned....
Some titles planned for next month:
- Calling All White Boys to Islam...
- Trying to Pray With Kids
- A Driving Desire
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Saudi gender roles and everyday life are being redefined as you read this. I feel like talking about it, in English, so it can be read in the furthest reaches of the planet.There is more to me than what exists within the domestic sphere and that’s what I’m trying to maintain through this dialogue with the world. This is about MY life and MY experiences within this small town
What's going on in my life?
May 11- Uh oh...school's out soon!
Just airing dirty laundry
- Saudi Stepford Wife-Daisy
- Al-Hassa/ Hofuf, Eastern Province, Saudi Arabia
- American/Saudi with a dash of religiosity, a pinch of realistic feminism, and usually with humorous overtones.
The Players and terms in this blog
- Me- Daisy
- DD- "The Dork of the Desert", my husband and yes, he reads my blog
- MaryJo- my oldest daughter age 9
- EttaMae- my middle child age 7
- Buddy- my baby boy
- abaya
- burga
- Al-Hassa- the city I live in, it's people are called Hasawis
- EP- the Eastern Province of Saudi Arabia
Why I made this blog
For any woman, no matter her origins, there are elements of Stepford in every town in every country. I'm in Stepford Saudi Arabia. I'm constantly struggling to maintain my identity and individuality and not to have 'me' swallowed up by the family unit or by what’s expected of me. Hence, the name "Saudi Stepford Wife" seemed applicable. I'm referring to the first movie, made in '75, in which the gender politics of the '70's is exaggerated. Much of the discourse taking place at that point in time is similar to issues where I am today. The movie includes perfect robotic housewives who do nothing but bake, get their floors to shine, and ponder the wonders of Easy-Off spray. They look stunning and live only to please their husbands while the protagonist tries desperately not to be assimilated by them.
This is about MY life and MY experiences within this town which will differ from everyone else's so please, hold the emails defending Al-Hassa. ِِِِI'm an educated mother of three and I want to tell you about my life and my observations.
coexistence
blogs I like so far
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Future Post Titles (tentative)
- Beauty's Only Skin Deep: Saudi Standards of Beauty
- The woman I can never be like
- The Najdi export of "Aayb"
- Things I have done while wearing an abaya
- Did you just insult me?
- a snail could download faster!
- Foreign Brides
- Weddings or fashion shows: brides or clowns?
- The Shabaab: Looking At Their World From The Outside
- A Saudi Broad Abroad: Saudi Women Outside of the Kingdom
- Crime?? What Crime??
- The Ayjooza News Network: Faster and more detailed than Al-Jazeera
- What are the gender roles: who's responsible for what?
- What To Do in a Town With No Activities in It
- Women Driving: You May Be Surprised What Some of Us Think!
- Saudi Trash
- My Fair Lady??: Rudeness in the Public Sphere
- Flirting- PLEASE LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE
- Hasawi Women: Past and Present
- Saudi Slums
- Al-Hassa's Plural Identities
- A Day in my life
U can"t hide.
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63 comments:
Your posts will be missed, I hope you get some sleep during the break!Don't keep us waiting for to long...
Remember to get plenty of sleep.
Salaam Alaikum,
I'll mish your posts. Have a great break, insha Allah.
I hope to see you back soon and hope the kids are doing well.
Remember Manal will help on that project of yours if you want. Just let us know.
As a white boy called to Islam, I'll be interested in reading that one!
I'll be missing ya too. Enjoy the break though!
Have a wonderful break.
oh i just linked to your blog today...anyways have great time! hope u keep safe inshAllah
Looking forward to your return, Daisy.
Interesting blog. Hmmm...
Wow, I'm very glad I found your blog, which I found in an image search for the abaya to show my daughter. At least while you are taking a break from blogging I can catch up on what you've written so far! I'm looking forward to it;)
Thanks for the "Coexist" logo, I knew the second I saw it that I wanted to read what you have to say. Insha'Allah you will have a good break, but in the meantime, nice to meet you! And trust me, I think we all sometimes feel like "Stepford Wives", or that the world would be happier if we were replaced by them! HAHA!
Hope to hear from you soon.Oh and Tag! you're it!http://always-in-my-kitchen.blogspot.com/
the prayer of mom , eh? we certainly arent alone....
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hi!
my name is maryam. i work in a PR company and i reached ur blog by mistake buti m glad i did. actually i would like some help from you..nuthin serious. i just wana know if you or any of your readers know of any place in khobar for pre schoolers where an event can be held by our company. we are trying to organize a fun fair kind of a thing for children of 3-6 years old and their mothers.. so if anyone can help me with the telephone number of any such place or website, i would be grateful thanks
my email is mayyyum@gmail.com
salamualaikum sister..
have a nice day
hope you continue on blogging
Assalamu alaykum Daisy,
Hope you had a nice break ( you are taking longer then I expected woman) but now it is time to write something interesting for readers such as myself who can't wait to read something new of yours!!! So please come back soon insha'Allah (well rested and refreshed at that, insha'Allah).
AA Dalioness,
Speaking of blogs, my dear, what has happened to yours?!! I really miss it along with Daisys! ; ) Peace! Tina
wa alaykum salam dear Tina,
Awww, really, you miss it? Masha'Allah. Nah, it was something personal that came up and I sort of decided it is better I delete it altogether. Besides, I don't think many people found it interesting, most of the material about Islam that I did and intended to continue to post is already available elsewhere, apart from maybe a few books I wanted to post, but I find on blogs people are more interested in good personal stories and experiences, and I simply didn't have time nor the talent plus my english vocabulary is quite poor, soooo...
It makes me happy that you liked it, though, thanks a bunch!!! And what about you, no blog of your own?
AA Dalioness,
Insh'Allah one day I might consider a blog but right now I'm too busy with the kids, the husband, and all that comes with being a stay-at-home mom/wife! I really did enjoy your blog, especially the stories of your grandparents! Mosh'Allah you are also a wonderful example of what a good Muslimah should be! I never would have guessed you had problems with english vocabulary. Hope to see you around on Daisy and Carols blogs!! Tina
Assalamu alaykum Tina,
Aww, you are so sweet! I pray that Allah covers my sins and and that I really am what you said of me and more insha'Allah. I make the same dua for you sister.
I'm sure I will stick around Daisy's blog insha'Allah, but I'm not sure about commenting on Carols' blog, although she is a very nice person. I just didn't "fit in with the crowd", hehe. Anyways, thank you for your sweet words. Btw, don't feel bad, I am sure you are much more fulfilled being a wife and a mother (how wonderful that must be) and it shows you put your family before all else, which is wonderful. As for my grandparents, hehe, everyday I hear a new story, from them and about them. I think if you met them you wouldn't be able to stop laughing-pretty much all day long (and well into the late night hours). LOL
See ya around (insha'Allah)!
I hope everything is okay Daisy and hope Manal's submission helped with your dissertation, Insha'Allah.
Assalamu alaykum Daaaaaaaiiiiiiisssyyyyy,
Sister you are way past the due date, pleeeeeeeeease come back....sniff....puppy eyes....a look over my shoulder....sniff
Man mid-june is long this year!
L&P,
~Brooke AKA Ummbadier
Gosh! My first time here and your blog is so interesting I want to read it all! =) I love your sense of humor, no wonder all those people waiting for you to come back from your break!
I hope everything is going well...please come back..even for a second to let us know that all is well =)
The bogosphere isn't the same without you!Besides I need ramadan ideas for my haven't got a clue what that part of the world is all about family.This year we're gonna celebrate!
Come back. Summer is over!
Ramadan Mubarak.
Salaam, Daisy, and Ramadhan mubarak? Hope all is well at your end. When do you return to the blog?
Assalamu alaykum ukhti,
Just dropped by to say Ramadan mubarak, you've been away for so long that I started to worry a bit, although I place my trust in Allah that you are well!
You are missed...
You are missed! Hopefully you'll return to the blog soon! I place my trust in Allah that you are well...
Just discovered your blog by accident somehow and absolutely love it. I have so many deadlines yet I couldn't resist reading a few posts. I moved to the UAE ten years ago and worked in education (although I'm now a full-time freelance travel writer and while Dubai is still our base we spend more time on the road than there), but I spent thousands and thousands of hours over the years sitting around with my Emirati students as they shared their lives with me, and although life is very different in the UAE to Saudia some of what you write reminds me of them. Hoping you'll be back soon. I'll certainly be back to check in on you!
AsSlamu 3alaikum
SubhanAllah, I'm so happy to have stumbled onto your blog. InshaAllah all is well and you had a blessed Ramadan and Eid. i too am American married to a "Hasawi" from Hufuf. InshaAllah, you will be able to blog soon so we could "compare" notes. I've enjoyed what i've seen of your blog already. Mashallah, you have a lovely family. I have 6 children so i can relate all too well about lack of sleep. InshaAllah, all is well and look foward to chating with you
Salams, Umzacharia
hmmm.. its October... still no post.. I pray u r in good health enshallah...
its bin ages now!
hi. its nov already. write something.
We've missed you...Mrs Anderson (from the matrix)
Write soon please...
Gosh!!
I have missed ya!!
I really wish everything is OK with you sweetie
AA Daisy,
Happy New Year to you and your family! Its been a really loooong time!!! ; ) Hope all is well with you and that you and your family have a safe, happy, and healthy year. Insh'Allah we hear from you soon! Peace, Tina
We miss you soooooooo much!
Happy new years to you and your family!
Salaams. Hope all's well inshallah. sf
Stumbled on your blog today, I hope you come back soon, it would be so interesting to read more and learn more about your life. I have added you to my list of blogs and will be looking forward to hearing from you...
Well, you hafta come back REAL SOON! I'm just findin' ya, and WOW I love yer blog and can't wait to read more of what you have to share! (((((HUGS))))) sandi~a Christian "stepford wife"~and PROUD OF IT! LOL!
Asalaamu Alaikum
I just love your blog..I hope you will write again insha Allah. I think you should really write a book.
Dear Daisy,
Have you closed your blog for good?
Maybe I am still in denial, but I am sure there are many more people popping in every once in a while to see if you were back.
Hope all is well, that life is good.
Be good, be happy, enjoy life and love.
Regards,
Dusty
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We miss you. Please come back.
I'm all the way over in the U.S. and yet I get it. There's a stepford community everywhere. Thanks for your thoughts; I'd love to her more.
Fellow Fallsite...where are you! I've been worried since I emailed and have had no response. Please let me know all is okay.
I think I am also in denial that this blog is no longer here...please come back!!!! Hope all is well!
You are doing a great job I liked reading you blog and I loved keep on the good work on I don’t know if I have said it already or not but great wok tack care thank you
Daisy my dear sis, where are you? my email was hijack and i lost your email address, plsease be in touch, gives us a sign how to contact you. your spanish sister in manchester(uk)
Daisy, you havent written anything since 2008. I am worried about you. Is everything okay wiht you? I hope all is well. Although I havent known your blog for a very long time, the few months I have read it, I really grew to empathize with you. Please come back atleast to tell us you are okay. SA can be a scary place for a woman to be, just wanted to make sure all is well with you.
why do folks like urself stop blogging and rob us of such literary pleasures ... oh please come back
Hello, I'm writing because I have a lot of traffic to my website coming from your blog site, even though you haven't made a post here in years. I'm curious as to why that is, as well as if you are well. Will you begin blogging again?
Cheryl
kc2la@pacbell.net
Assalamu Alaikum
Just came across your blog for the first time. Its absolutely brilliant. Really do hope you start again soon!
I just read about you on American Bedu blog ... I don't think you can even read this but ... all my doua'a will be for you.
I just read about you on Carol's blog, American Bedu. It left me feeling so sad, I pray for God to protect you and Inshallah you are safe.
May God be with you. I am so sorry to hear about everything. I hope that a beautiful soul like you gets to live the life you should live - one where you are respected and cherished and have all the freedom to express yourself. Please if God exists, I hope he gives you a speedy recovery and hope he keeps you safe.
Hi I don't know if you are able to check this blog but I have often wondered where you are. I was a loyal reader from Riyadh. I tried by the off chance to find you again and got the old post from Carol's site. Very saddened and appalled to read of your circumstance,I hope you are well and in a safe place. Know you are loved :)
thanks
She can't come back I've read she was in a super abusive marriage that she only told 1or2 people being women. it seems now Daisy is a total vegetable living in vegetative state due to husband abusing her and he has taken a 2nd wife so awful I know Allah would never approve of this and her getting beat into vegetation state.hope all is working out for Daisy.
Beautiful Daisy vseemsvwasvabused by her husband and us in vegative state. You must read Carol's blog became Daisy shared her abusevw her only once. it happens here in Saudi. Women be safe.
Assalamu Alaikum sister
Just came across your blog website for the 1st time. Its a nice blog. Really do hope you start again soon! Now its almost 8 years.. all single an married muslima on blog were changed their platform to social media. I was a regular reader of those blogs during their good time.
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