Tuesday, December 4, 2007

The Bell Tolls for the Alarm-Clock King.


"Athaan?", my nearly-deaf and almost blind father-in-law asks as he pops his head out of his bedroom at 1am to see if the call to the pre-dawn prayer has passed.

"Not yet Dad, it's still early", I'd assure him at the top of my lungs.

He brought me his alarm clock almost every night before going to bed to make sure the time was accurate and the alarm was set to go off about a half-hour before the athaan was called so he'd make sure to be up, washed, dressed and sitting in the first row by the time they got around to calling for prayer.

"Set it to a quarter-to-4" he'd instruct me then hold the clock at the end of his nose, straining to confirm my settings after handing it back to him.

Despite my assuring him of it's accuracy, he'd proceed to fiddle with it after returning to his bedroom, usually to set it a bit earlier just in case so he'd be sure not to miss prayer. This meant that his alarm was going off at all times during the night. Sometimes he'd pop out 3 times a night to ask if it was time to pray yet or not because he couldn't hear it himself nor see a clock well enough to check the time. Each time we send him back to his bed to await pleasing his Lord a few hours longer.

My father-in-law spent his last few weeks in this life asking every few minutes if it was time to pray. Much of the speech he was capable of in the days after his stroke in September was used to invoke the name of God and thank him for everything in his life that he could remember through his delirium. May Allah have mercy on him, forgive him of his sins and accept him into the highest levels of heaven. He passed away last night, Allah yarhamma.

His alarm went off at 3:30 this morning.

64 comments:

L_Oman said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon--we belong to Allah and to Him do we return.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Please accept my condolences to you and your family.

UmmAbdurRahman said...

daisy your family is in our prayers. it says a lot about his character that he was so concerned about missing the fajr prayer.

I hope that allah makes his grave spacious and grant him the highest level of jannah. ameen

brnaeem said...

AA- Daisy,

What a beautiful eulogy for your father! I laughed while reading it and now I pray that he be in the mercy of Allah (swt).

I pray that if/when I get to his age, my concern for Fajr is as strong as his!

Sunil Krishnan said...

May Allah, the almighty, rest his soul in peace. Ameen.

mummyjaan said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'oon. May Allah make me as devoted to my prayer as he was to his Ameen. And for inspiring me, and perhaps others, may he have sawab even after his death Ameen.

Allah have mercy on him and give your family patience Ameen.

mezba said...

inna lillah.

hema said...

inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon

i've never laughed and cried at the same time. he sounds like a very sweet man MashAllah. May Allah have mercy on his soul and forgive him his sins

Cairogal said...

Oh, D. I'm so sorry. It sounds like your FIL valued his spiritual existence even in the last months of his life. It doesn't get more beautiful than that.

Anonymous said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon. May Allah bless his sould. He so reminds me of my grandfather who asked anyone if it was time for prayers, he would at times do the same prayer over and over again. My condolences to you. sf

Sarah Ouadghiri said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajoon..

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. He sounds like he was a very special person and I am sure he will be greatly missed. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

May Allah grant him the highest level of Jannah.

Ameen,

Sarah Ouadghiri

أبو سنان said...

May Allah have mercy on his soul. My father passed away about 8 years ago after a having a stroke induced by brain cancer.

He was similar in that he had a very hard time remembering anything. It was odd at the same time because sometimes he was 100%lucid.

May God have mercy on those who suffer from such things, and also on those who take care of them.

Organic-Muslimah said...

ان لله وانا اليه راجعون

البقاء لله

الله يرحمه يارب
واسأل الله الكريم ان يغفر له ويجعله في اعلي دراجات الجنة ان شاء الله

الصبر ودعواتي مع اسرتكم الكريمة

اورجانيك

CamelCrusher said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajoon,
Words cannot express my feelings towards your father in laws death. We are all at Allah's Mercy. I am not over my daugther's passing. She would be 1 years old w/her sisters. I pray for your family in this time of need.

CamelCrusher

Sprite said...

Sorry to hear about your loss. Reading your post has made me so sad; it was a lovely memorial to him.

adiamondinsunlight said...

Oh, what a sweet goodbye to your father-in-law. I'm so sorry for your family's loss - but what a beautiful portrait you have given us of his final days.

Saudi Jawa said...

My condolences on your loss...

DawnUK said...

Salaam Aleikum

inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon


MashALLAH what an amazing man to be thinking so intently of his prayers.

May ALLAH forgive him his sins and grant him into Jennah,InshALLAH.

May ALLAH also heal your grief inshALLAH.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Lalla Mona said...

Ameen Ameen Ameen,
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon.

Safiya Outlines said...

Salaam Alaikum,

To Him we come from and to Him we will return.

What a wonderful man your Father in Law was. May Allah swt grant him Jannah and help your family through this time.

Mona said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'oon. My condolences to you and your family. I loved this post.

UmmFarouq said...

Heartfelt condolences to you and your family during this time of loss.

What a touching and beautiful post.

Hanie said...

My condolence, Daisy. Inna lillahi wa innailahi rajioon.

Hanie
http://lifeisonebigstage.wordpress.com

Relief said...

Inna lilahe wa inna lilayhe rajioon allahumma jurney fee maseebatee akhkilfee khairun minha. Mahsallah your father in law is quite inspriring al hamdulilaah! May Allah forgive his sins and give him Jannahtul Ferdose. Ameen.

May Allah have mercy on you and your husband and family during these difficult times and give you patience and a great reward for your patience.

Aliyah said...

Bismillah.

Assalaamu alaykum *smile*

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon (we belong to Allah and to Him we return).

May Allah grant your father-in-law with Jennah and make this time easy for your family, ameen.

He seemed a lovely man and very devout.

*hugs*

Nzingha said...

inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon

I'm very sorry to read of your families loss. I so adored my FIL and it was difficult when he passed away.

Lianne said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilahi raji'un.
Indeed may Allah accept from him and grant him Jannah. Ameen

Lilliy said...

Allah Yerhamo.. Wee Azzam Allah Ajrakom.. my condolences to you and your family..

Americacn Muslim said...

Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioon... SubhanAllah, we must take a great lesson from the beatiful example of your father in law, may Allah have immense Mercy upon his soul.

Abdul-Haadie said...

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Best days for glorifying Allah and performing virtuous deeds.

Virtues of the Ten Days of Dhul Hijjah

Question:
How do the first ten days of the Month of Dhul Hijjah differ from other days of the year?



Answer:

The first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah:

Days of virtue and righteous deeds

Praise be to Allaah Who has created Time and has made some times better than others, some months and days and nights better than others, when rewards are multiplied many times, as a mercy towards His slaves. This encourages them to do more righteous deeds and makes them more eager to worship Him, so that the Muslim renews his efforts to gain a greater share of reward, prepare himself for death and supply himself in readiness for the Day of Judgement.

This season of worship brings many benefits, such as the opportunity to correct one’s faults and make up for any shortcomings or anything that one might have missed. Every one of these special occasions involves some kind of worship through which the slaves may draw closer to Allaah, and some kind of blessing though which Allaah bestows His favour and mercy upon whomsoever He will. The happy person is the one who makes the most of these special months, days and hours and draws nearer to his Lord during these times through acts of worship; he will most likely be touched by the blessing of Allaah and will feel the joy of knowing that he is safe from the flames of Hell. (Ibn Rajab, al-Lataa’if, p.8)

The Muslim must understand the value of his life, increase his worship of Allaah and persist in doing good deeds until the moment of death. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

"And worship your Lord until there comes unto you the certainty." [al-Hijr 15:99] The mufassireen (commentators) said: "‘The certainty’ means death."

Among the special seasons of worship are the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah, which Allaah has preferred over all the other days of the year. Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days." The people asked, "Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah?" He said, "Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 2/457).

Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) also reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "There is no deed more precious in the sight of Allaah, nor greater in reward, than a good deed done during the ten days of Sacrifice." He was asked, "Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah?" He said, "Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing." (Reported by al-Daarimi, 1/357; its isnaad is hasan as stated in al-Irwaa’, 3/398).

These texts and others indicate that these ten days are better than all the other days of the year, with no exceptions, not even the last ten days of Ramadaan. But the last ten nights of Ramadaan are better, because they include Laylat al-Qadr ("the Night of Power"), which is better than a thousand months. Thus the various reports may be reconciled. (See Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 5/412).

You should know, my brother in Islaam, that the virtue of these ten days is based on many things:

Allaah swears an oath by them, and swearing an oath by something is indicative of its importance and great benefit. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "By the dawn; by the ten nights" [al-Fajr 89:1-2]. Ibn ‘Abbaas, Ibn al-Zubayr, Mujaahid and others of the earlier and later generations said that this refers to the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah. Ibn Katheer said: "This is the correct opinion." (Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 8/413)

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) testified that these are the best days of this world, as we have already quoted above from saheeh ahaadeeth.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged people to do righteous deeds because of the virtue of this season for people throughout the world, and also because of the virtue of the place - for the Hujjaaj (pilgrims) to the Sacred House of Allaah.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded us to recite a lot of Tasbeeh ("Subhan-Allaah"), Tahmeed ("Al-hamdu Lillaah") and Takbeer ("Allaahu akbar") during this time. ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "There are no days greater in the sight of Allaah and in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Him than these ten days, so during this time recite a great deal of Tahleel ("La ilaaha ill-Allaah"), Takbeer and Tahmeed." (Reported by Ahmad, 7/224; Ahmad Shaakir stated that it is saheeh).

These ten days include Yawm ‘Arafaah (the Day of ‘Arafaah), on which Allaah perfected His Religion. Fasting on this day will expiate for the sins of two years. These days also include Yawm al-Nahar (the Day of Sacrifice), the greatest day of the entire year and the greatest day of Hajj, which combines acts of worship in a way unlike any other day.

These ten days include the days of sacrifice and of Hajj.
Question: What must the Muslim avoid during these ten days if he wants to offer a sacrifice?

The Sunnah indicates that the one who wants to offer a sacrifice must stop cutting his hair and nails and removing anything from his skin, from the beginning of the ten days until after he has offered his sacrifice, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "When you see the new moon of Dhu’l-Hijjah, if any one of you wants to offer a sacrifice, then he should stop cutting his hair and nails until he has offered his sacrifice." According to another report he said: "He should not remove (literally, touch) anything from his hair or skin." (reported by Muslim with four isnaads, 13/146)

The Prophet’s instruction here makes one thing obligatory and his prohibition makes another haraam, according to the soundest opinion, because these commands and prohibitions are unconditional and unavoidable. However, if a person does any of these things deliberately, he must seek Allaah’s forgiveness but is not required to offer (an extra) sacrifice in expiation; his sacrifice will be acceptable. Whoever needs to remove some hair, nails, etc. because it is harming him, such as having a broken nail or a wound in a site where there is hair, should do so, and there is nothing wrong with that. The state of ihraam is so important that it is permitted to cut one’s hair if leaving it will cause harm. There is nothing wrong with men or women washing their heads during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) only forbade cutting the hair, not washing it.

The wisdom behind this prohibition of the one who wants to offer a sacrifice from cutting his hair etc., is so that he may resemble those in ihraam in some aspects of the rituals performed, and so that he may draw closer to Allaah by offering the sacrifice. So he leaves his hair and nails alone until the time when he has offered his sacrifice, in the hope that Allaah will save him in his entirety from the Fire. And Allaah knows best.

If a person has cut his hair or nails during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah because he was not planning to offer a sacrifice, then he decides later, during the ten days, to offer a sacrifice, then he must refrain from cutting his hair and nails from the moment he makes this decision.

Some women may delegate their brothers or sons to make the sacrifice on their behalf, then cut their hair during these ten days. This is not correct, because the ruling applies to the one who is offering the sacrifice, whether or not he (or she) delegates someone else to carry out the actual deed. The prohibition does not apply to the person delegated, only to the person who is making the sacrifice, as is indicated in the hadeeth. The person who is sacrificing on behalf of someone else, for whatever reason, does not have to adhere to this prohibition.

This prohibition appears to apply only to the one who is offering the sacrifice, not to his wife and children, unless any of them is offering a sacrifice in his or her own right, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to sacrifice "on behalf of the family of Muhammad," but there are no reports that say he forbade them to cut their hair or nails at that time.

If a person was planning to offer a sacrifice, then he decides to go and perform Hajj, he should not cut his hair or nails if he wants to enter ihraam, because the Sunnah is only to cut hair and nails when necessary. But if he is performing Tamattu’ [whereby he performs ‘Umrah, comes out of ihraam and enters ihraam anew for Hajj], he should trim his hair at the end of his ‘Umrah because this is part of the ritual.

The things that are described above as being prohibited for the person who is planning to offer a sacrifice are reported in the hadeeth quoted above; the person is not forbidden to wear perfume, have marital relations, wear sewn garments, etc.

Concerning the types of worship to be performed during these ten days: one must understand that these days are a great blessing from Allaah to His slave, which is appreciated properly by the actively righteous. It is the Muslim’s duty to appreciate this blessing and make the most of the opportunity, by devoting these ten days to paying more attention to striving hard in worship. Among His blessings to His slaves, Allaah has given us many ways in which to do good and worship Him, so that the Muslim may be constantly active and consistent in his worship of his Lord.

Among the good deeds which the Muslim should strive to do during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah are:

Fasting. It is Sunnah to fast on the ninth day of Dhu’l-Hijjah, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) urged us to do good deeds during this time, and fasting is one of the best of deeds. Allaah has chosen fasting for Himself, as is stated in the hadeeth qudsi: "Allaah says: ‘All the deeds of the son of Adam are for him, except for fasting, which is for Me and I am the One Who will reward him for it.’" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 1805).

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to fast on the ninth of Dhu’l-Hijjah. Hunaydah ibn Khaalid reported from his wife that some of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to fast on the ninth of Dhu’l-Hijjah, on the day of ‘Aashooraa’, on three days of each month, and on the first two Mondays and Thursdays of each month." (Reported by al-Nisaa’i, 4/205 and by Abu Dawud; classified by al-Albaani as saheeh in Saheeh Abi Dawud, 2/462).

Takbeer. It is Sunnah to say Takbeer ("Allaahu akbar"), Tahmeed ("Al-hamdu Lillaah"), Tahleel ("La ilaha ill-Allaah") and Tasbeeh ("Subhaan Allaah") during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah, and to say it loudly in the mosque, the home, the street and every place where it is permitted to remember Allaah and mention His name out loud, as an act of worship and as a proclamation of the greatness of Allaah, may He be exalted.
Men should recite these phrases out loud, and women should recite them quietly.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

"That they might witness things that are of benefit to them (i.e., reward of Hajj in the Hereafter, and also some worldly gain from trade, etc.), and mention the name of Allaah on appointed days, over the beast of cattle that He has provided for them (for sacrifice)..." [al-Hajj 22:28]

The majority of scholars agree that the "appointed days" are the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah, because of the words of Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father): "The ‘appointed days’ are the first ten days (of Dhu’l-Hijjah)."

The Takbeer may include the words "Allaahu akbar, Allaahu akbar, la ilaaha ill-Allaah; wa Allaahu akbar wa Lillaahi’l-hamd (Allaah is Most Great, Allaah is Most Great, there is no god but Allaah; Allaah is Most Great and to Allaah be praise)," as well as other phrases.

Takbeer at this time is an aspect of the Sunnah that has been forgotten, especially during the early part of this period, so much so that one hardly ever hears Takbeer, except from a few people. This Takbeer should be pronounced loudly, in order to revive the Sunnah and as a reminder to the negligent. There is sound evidence that Ibn ‘Umar and Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with them) used to go out in the marketplace during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah, reciting Takbeer, and the people would recite Takbeer when they heard them. The idea behind reminding the people to recite Takbeer is that each one should recite it individually, not in unison, as there is no basis in Sharee’ah for doing this.

Reviving aspects of the Sunnah that have been virtually forgotten is a deed that will bring an immense reward, as is indicated by the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): "Whoever revives an aspect of my Sunnah that is forgotten after my death, he will have a reward equivalent to that of the people who follow him, without it detracting in the least from their reward." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 7/443; this is a hasan hadeeth because of corroborating asaaneed).

Performing Hajj and ‘Umrah. One of the best deeds that one can do during these ten days is to perform Hajj to the Sacred House of Allaah. The one whom Allaah helps to go on Hajj to His House and to perform all the rituals properly is included in the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): "An accepted Hajj brings no less a reward than Paradise."

Doing more good deeds in general, because good deeds are beloved by Allaah and will bring a great reward from Him. Whoever is not able to go to Hajj should occupy himself at this blessed time by worshipping Allaah, praying (salaat), reading Qur’an, remembering Allaah, making supplication (du’aa’), giving charity, honouring his parents, upholding the ties of kinship, enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil, and other good deeds and acts of worship.

Sacrifice. One of the good deeds that will bring a person closer to Allaah during these ten days is offering a sacrifice, by choosing a high-quality animal and fattening it, spending money for the sake of Allaah. (more information to follow, in sha Allaah).

Sincere repentance. One of the most important things to do during these ten days is to repent sincerely to Allaah and to give up all kinds of disobedience and sin. Repentance means coming back to Allaah and foregoing all the deeds, open and secret, that He dislikes, out of regret for what has passed, giving it up immediately and being determined never to return to it, but to adhere firmly to the Truth by doing what Allaah loves.
If a Muslim commits a sin, he must hasten to repent at once, without delay, firstly because he does not know when he will die, and secondly because one evil deed leads to another.

Repentance at special times is very important because in most cases people’s thoughts turn towards worship at these times, and they are keen to do good, which leads to them recognizing their sins and feeling regret for the past. Repentance is obligatory at all times, but when the Muslim combines sincere repentance with good deeds during the days of most virtue, this is a sign of success, in sha Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "But as for him who repented, believed and did righteous deeds, then he will be among those who are successful." [al-Qasas 28:67]

The Muslim should make sure that he does not miss any of these important occasion, because time is passing quickly. Let him prepare himself by doing good deeds which will bring him reward when he is most in need of it, for no matter how much reward he earns, he will find it is less than he needs; the time of departure is at hand, the journey is frightening, delusions are widespread, and the road is long, but Allaah is ever watchful, and to Him will we return and render account. As the Qur’aan says (interpretation of the meaning):

"So whosoever does good equal to the weight of an atom, shall see it,

And whosoever does evil equal to the weight of an atom, shall see it."

[al-Zalzalah 99:7-8]

There is much to be gained, so make the most of the opportunity afforded by these invaluable and irreplaceable ten days. Hasten to do good works, before death strikes, before one can regret one’s negligence and failure to act, before one is asked to return to a place where no prayers will be answered, before death intervenes between the hopeful one and the things he hopes for, before you are trapped with your deeds in the grave.

O you whose hard heart is as dark as the night, is it not time that your heart was filled with light and became soft? Expose yourself to the gentle breeze of your Lord’s mercy during these ten days, for Allaah will cause this breeze to touch whomever He wills, and whoever is touched by it will be happy on the Day of Judgement. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad and all his Family and Companions.




Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

t ahmat said...

Asallam Alaikum Sister Daisy

To ALLAH belongs everything and to ALLAH everything will return

May ALLAH have mercy on your father in the grave and make a great place for him in Paradise for you all to meet again.

May ALLAH help you,your family,and loved ones through this time of sadness and loss.

Oh Daisy,I recall previous posts where you talked of your FIL being ill but did not realize the extent of it.InshAllah he will bring wonderful memories to you and your family and readers.

Shookran for sharing this with us.Please let your family know that you are in our thoughts and prayers around the world!

Peace & Blessings

HijabIsOverrated said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon

Huda said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon...

It's so true, when we realize "wow..he's really gone." Allah created your father in law, and insha Allah, insha Allah your father in law is now in Jannah.

What a loving way you shared with us what your father in law's character was. I chuckled and cried at the loss you must be feeling.
It must be really hard to lose a family member who was that strong in his deen. It's such a reminder to me to make salaah THE priority.

May Allah be with you and your family during this time, especially your mil and your husband. My duas join with the rest of those here, in the hopes that there will be ease for you during these days.

Molly said...

May Allah bless him and grant him Jannah, and may he be at peaceful rest waiting for the Day.
Ameen.
I'm crying at work. I hope to Allah that I can wish to please my Lord as he did.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon.

Anonymous said...

Salaam alaykum sis

May Allah have mercy on him Ameeen

Best thing you can do for him is to make lot's of du'aa esp in ur sujood, and pay sadaqah (charity on his behalf, as he will benefit from that insha'Allah. Preferebly sadaqah jaariyah, you know the ongoing type of charity.
He reminded me of how the early generations of Islam were so worried about not praying on time, and of always having Allah at the forefront of their thoughts, I hope that we can be like ur FIL and the best Muslim examples.

Best Wishes
x

Anonymous said...

*Sorry early generations of Muslims

dalioness said...

Inna lillahi wa inna 'ilayhi raji'oon. May Allah forbid the Hellfire from ever touching him, may Allah Azza wa Jal make his grave spacious and grant him Jannah Al Firdaus.Ameen.
Okhti you made my eyes flush with tears with the last sentence.

TeacherLady said...

What a beautiful post... Thank you for sharing this perfect little moment captured in time, in memory, and now in cyberspace!

The DP said...

Salam alaikoum. Inna lillahi wa inna 'ilayhi raji'oon. ameen on everyone's duas.

Saudi Bridget said...

Allah Yerhamo wee Yesakeno Aljanah Inshallah.. my condolences to you and your family..

homeinkabul said...

May Allah grant him mercy.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

Ahmed Abdul Azeem(Hamid) said...

Assalamualaikum!

What has he lost who has found You (O Allah), and what has he found who has lost You (O Allah).


Death surrounds adam offspring's neck just like a necklace surrounds the woman's neck.

I pray for his forgiveness n ask Allah to elevate his postion in jannah...a'ameen

Anonymous said...

Salaams daisy, it has been a while, inshallah you and your family had a good eid and a happy new year inshallah. Salaams. sf

ibn Abu Jetmir said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon

masha'allah, reminds me of my grandmother. she always asks if its time yet and what time it is. make dua for her.

samia said...

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon. my sincere thoughts and condolences to you and your family. may your fil be rewarded with jannah and may we all follow his example. ameen.


When I die
when my coffin
is being taken out
you must never think
I am missing this world

Don’t shed any tears
don’t lament or
feel sorry
I’m not falling
into a monster’s abyss

When you see
my corpse is being carried
don’t cry for my leaving
I’m not leaving
I’m arriving at eternal love

When you leave me
in the grave
don’t say goodbye
remember a grave is
only a curtain
for the paradise behind

You’ll only see me
descending into a grave
now watch me rise
how can there be an end
when the sun sets or
the moon goes down

It looks like the end
it seems like a sunset
but in reality it is a dawn
when the grave locks you up
that is when your soul is freed

Have you ever seen
a seed fallen to earth
not rise with a new life
why should you doubt the rise
of a seed named human

Have you ever seen
a bucket lowered into a well
coming back empty
why lament for a soul
when it can come back
like Joseph from the well

When for the last time
you close your mouth
your words and soul
will belong to the world of
no place no time

- Rumi -


SALAAM sister

Aliyah said...

Assalaamu alaykum Daisy,

We haven't seen a blog entry from you in a while...hope everything is OK with you and your family after you father-in-law's passing away.

Miss you and your funny posts!

Ma'a salaama!

Aliyah said...

PS I added you to my blogroll, hope that is OK *smile*

Ann said...

Assalaamu alaikum,

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'oon... And your post is a great eulogy for your father-in-law. Sorry I'm late for this, but I haven't been checking the blogs much lately.

My father-in-law died in October, and he was the same way, masha'allah... never missed a prayer, always giving charity, never wanting to travel anywhere but to Makkah for umrah... and those last couple of months he was in the hospital, very weak, and still always asking when it was time to pray. Subhanallah, in 13 years, I never saw anything bad from him.

These are people that others don't hear much about and might not even run into often, since their time is usually spent in the masjid or with their families, but there are plenty of them.

May Allah have mercy on them and on all of us... and may their deaths be a reminder to the rest of us about what's really important.

Thehomeschoolinummi said...

As Salaamu alaykum
Inna lillahi wa inna ilahyhi rajioon

I am so sorry to hear bout your loss. May allah bless you and your family and bless your father and raise him amongst the righteous ones ameen

dalioness said...

Salam Alaykum ukhti,

You are missed. Insha'Allah you do not mind me adding you to my blogroll.

Mounir said...

Happy to discover your blog.
Good luck.

Asma Ali said...

I truly am sorry for your loss. I hope the links below are of some help to you and all those whom have lost loved ones.

1- http://www.sunnahonline.com/library/purification/0112.htm

2- http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-1271703983528881536

Asma Ali said...

I truly am sorry for your loss. I hope the links below are of some help to you and all those whom have lost loved ones.

1- http://www.sunnahonline.com/library
/purification/0112.htm

2- http://video.google.com/
videoplay?docid=-1271703983528881536

Suburban said...

Daisy,

That was a touching, beautiful Eulogy. What a wonderful man he must have been. How fortunate he was to have had such a devoted family to love him, look after him, and treasure him. We should all be so blessed. I'm so sorry I didn't comment earlier.

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun

Aysha said...

My condolences daisy. Such a wonderful man in the hands of a merciful God, to rest and find peace at last. Sorry for your loss, and much more for being this late to know :'(

May no sadness or pain ever again cross your path...

Molly said...

Daisy we miss you, hope you and your family are doing well.
come back to us soon.

intlxpatr said...

What a sweet hearted man, and what a sweet DIL he had, too (!) I am so sorry for your loss, Daisy, and you must know a man of such devotion is safely in God's arms now.

_deadlydoll said...

I'm very sorry for your families loss. My heart goes out to you and your family in this time.

Mona said...

I miss your blog Daisy, hope your back posting soon. :)

Khalid said...

Its sad that the first post I read in this blog is this, May god grant him the highest level of jannah. my prayers are with you,

4everHopeful said...

assallamu alaikum sis,

Sorry for the late condolence message.

Inna lilahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon.

May Allah grant him jannatul firdaus, ameen.

Muneeb Saeed said...

mashaallah a very pious man
sorry to hear for the loss :(

His Sweetheart said...

Allah yerhamah inshalla!!
May Allah forgive all his sins and grants him the highest level of Paradise.

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Sameena said...

You know how to bring out the comedy in everyday life. Your post was hilarious up till the end... my condolences.
And please keep writing, you are utter joy to read!