Monday, October 22, 2007
Daisy the House Drudge
Out of my 11+ years of marriage and keeping house, I've only had a maid for 1 1/2 years of that time. Boy how that 1 1/2 years made a big difference in my sanity!
We sent my housekeeper to my in-laws house to work. My father-in-law has become quite ill and it's becoming increasingly difficult for my mother-in-law to keep up the house. I'm grateful I had my maid to help me out with my last heavy months of pregnancy and the first year of Buddy's life. Although it was nice having the dishes washed and toilets scrubbed for me, I found I miss having another adult around the house more than anything since DD's not here most of the time.
In the two days since she's left I have the following problems:
-only 4 combined hours of sleep due to balancing Buddy and EttaMae's waking during the night.
-had to take the world's fastest shower as Buddy stood screaming outside the bathroom.
-had to "hold it" until Buddy passes out for a nap
- carry Buddy in the laundry basket with the dirty clothes since he can't be left on his own
-speedcleaning at night after the kids are asleep because Buddy won't let me do anything else as long as he's awake.
-haven't yet taken the garbage out to the street because I can't carry Buddy and the garbage and I'd have to do it in my abaya.
- I can't just run out for a moment without packing up all my kids.
These are all things my maid would help out with when she was here. She'd play with Buddy for a moment if I needed to answer the "call of nature" or manage EttaMae if she woke up at night while I managed Buddy instead of the two locked in a cycle of waking each other up with their whining. And if I didn't get any sleep the night before, she'd watch Buddy for me as I took a cat nap. She'd also make sure EttaMae didn't kill her brother with love while I was reading for my dissertation.
Inshallah, I'll work out a system soon. I always say that as long as you schedule things right, you can fit in an amazing amount of stuff into a day.